Re: "በርህን ዘግተህ ሚስትህን ስትደበድብ፤ ለምን ጎረቤት ይጠይቀኛል ማለት አትችልም፤ የሉኣላዊነት ጉዳይ አድርገኀው መቀጠል ኣትችልም። ከሚስትህ ጋራ ቁጭ ብለህ መግባባት ከቻልክ . . .
The Ethiopian government is really acting like an abusive husband. Solomon using such example will help people understand how out of order the government has been.
Traits of All Abusive Men
First, the most important thing:
The commonalities.
I believe that to truly understand human phenomena, it’s always best to start from the deeper layer.
At the core, abusive men have a very distinct psychological make up which seeks power and control.
All abusive men:
Seek to control her partner
Disrespect her partner
Seek to lower her partner’s self-esteem
Undermine her independence (and independent partner can’t be controlled)
The specifics of an abusive relationship can change because different abusers have different levels for each trait and they all find different ways to express their abusive “needs”.
Lundy Bancroft, a professional counselor with decades of experience with abusive men, introduces seven archetypes of abusers.
Here they are:
1. Demand Man: The Woman Is There to Serve Him
The demand man believes that his woman is on earth to serve him.
His needs and wants take precedence over most anything else. About your own needs, for sure, and often even above the children’s needs.
If you are in a relationship with an abusive man of this type, he will order you around and expect you to drop anything else to serve him.
Just like a paid servant waiting on stand-by.
Except he doesn’t pay you, he is always unhappy because his standards are too high to meet, and he treats you like dirt.
These are his main beliefs:
It’s your job to do things for me
If I fail at something, I’ll still get angry at you
If I’m unsatisfied with anything, it’s your fault
You can’t demand anything of me but I can demand everything of you
Be grateful for whatever scrap I give you
Don’t ever criticize me
In spite of it all, I am a loving person and you’re a lucky woman
The demand man can be less controlling than others… As long as you meet all his needs.
2. The “Padre Padrone”: The Ultimate Authority Of The Whole Family
Ludy Bancroft calls this type of abuser the “military general”.
The military general is all about control.
And he takes “controlling” to a whole new level.
He wants to know everything you do in your life and most anything requires his approval.
Some of them, but not all, take the same uber-controlling attitude on the whole family, while some others only focus on their wives.
When he takes control over the whole family, then I call them “padre padrone”.
“Padre padrone” is an Italian term.
It’s a wordplay of “padre”, meaning “father”, and “padrone”, meaning owner.
It’s a great expression because it goes at the core of what this type of abuser is all about: the “padre padrone” feels like he owns the family, and he acts like he owns the family.
My experience with military generals
My former neighbor used to be a military general with his wife, and he built a custom-made chastity belt for her (I’m not joking).
And I have once dated the daughter of a padre padrone.
Without actually knowing anything about the types of abusive men, she said of him that he was “like a general”.
It pained me to see how deeply that idiot had psychologically impacted her.
I still feel for that woman: that idiot scarred her for life.
Example: The “Padre Padrone”
You will not understand the words, but you will still understand the dynamics:
Continue reading https://thepowermoves.com/7-types-of-ab ... -analysis/
Traits of All Abusive Men
First, the most important thing:
The commonalities.
I believe that to truly understand human phenomena, it’s always best to start from the deeper layer.
At the core, abusive men have a very distinct psychological make up which seeks power and control.
All abusive men:
Seek to control her partner
Disrespect her partner
Seek to lower her partner’s self-esteem
Undermine her independence (and independent partner can’t be controlled)
The specifics of an abusive relationship can change because different abusers have different levels for each trait and they all find different ways to express their abusive “needs”.
Lundy Bancroft, a professional counselor with decades of experience with abusive men, introduces seven archetypes of abusers.
Here they are:
1. Demand Man: The Woman Is There to Serve Him
The demand man believes that his woman is on earth to serve him.
His needs and wants take precedence over most anything else. About your own needs, for sure, and often even above the children’s needs.
If you are in a relationship with an abusive man of this type, he will order you around and expect you to drop anything else to serve him.
Just like a paid servant waiting on stand-by.
Except he doesn’t pay you, he is always unhappy because his standards are too high to meet, and he treats you like dirt.
These are his main beliefs:
It’s your job to do things for me
If I fail at something, I’ll still get angry at you
If I’m unsatisfied with anything, it’s your fault
You can’t demand anything of me but I can demand everything of you
Be grateful for whatever scrap I give you
Don’t ever criticize me
In spite of it all, I am a loving person and you’re a lucky woman
The demand man can be less controlling than others… As long as you meet all his needs.
2. The “Padre Padrone”: The Ultimate Authority Of The Whole Family
Ludy Bancroft calls this type of abuser the “military general”.
The military general is all about control.
And he takes “controlling” to a whole new level.
He wants to know everything you do in your life and most anything requires his approval.
Some of them, but not all, take the same uber-controlling attitude on the whole family, while some others only focus on their wives.
When he takes control over the whole family, then I call them “padre padrone”.
“Padre padrone” is an Italian term.
It’s a wordplay of “padre”, meaning “father”, and “padrone”, meaning owner.
It’s a great expression because it goes at the core of what this type of abuser is all about: the “padre padrone” feels like he owns the family, and he acts like he owns the family.
My experience with military generals
My former neighbor used to be a military general with his wife, and he built a custom-made chastity belt for her (I’m not joking).
And I have once dated the daughter of a padre padrone.
Without actually knowing anything about the types of abusive men, she said of him that he was “like a general”.
It pained me to see how deeply that idiot had psychologically impacted her.
I still feel for that woman: that idiot scarred her for life.
Example: The “Padre Padrone”
You will not understand the words, but you will still understand the dynamics:
Continue reading https://thepowermoves.com/7-types-of-ab ... -analysis/
Re: "በርህን ዘግተህ ሚስትህን ስትደበድብ፤ ለምን ጎረቤት ይጠይቀኛል ማለት አትችልም፤ የሉኣላዊነት ጉዳይ አድርገኀው መቀጠል ኣትችልም። ከሚስትህ ጋራ ቁጭ ብለህ መግባባት ከቻልክ . . .
The day a wife stubbed her husband while he is in sleep she cease to be a wife she is a criminal. Her husband is within his rights to kill her as self defense let alone abuse her. Weyannes treason against northern command is such a case. The Tigrian People should leave the fighting for weyanne but anyone who is fighting on behalf of weyane is a weyanne and should be treated as such.. period.